Wednesday, February 18, 2009

No, I don't _____, and I'm happy with it

Yes, I scheduled a repeat Csection. Yes, I know that many people consider that wrong and that I should push my OB towards a VBAC (Vaginal birth after Csection). However, after the agony I went through with Keifer's birth, I'd rather not go in and repeat that experience. IF I happen to go into labor on my own prior to our scheduled June 11 date, then we'll see how my body is cooperating. However, I have no qualms about my doctor taking Kyla out of me via Csection.

And no, I'm not going to breastfeed Kyla, either. I (never did) breastfeed Keifer, and you know what? She is a happy, highly intelligent girl who has a very strong bond with me and her daddy. Yes, she gets sick a lot in the winter, but 1)she is in a daycare, 2) I work with young children and bring home MANY germs, and 3) I have heard MANY stories or children who are primarily breastfed who have many more health conditions that our girl. So we'll stick with what works for US, and it is not an issue for CJ nor I. To each her own, and in our case, we are happy, and so is baby!

I may decide to change my mind once Kyla arrives. Who knows. I did try breastfeeding Keifer at one point during my hospital stay, but decided it isn't for me. And that's that. :)

16 comments:

BellaBride said...

How sad that healthy, intelligent, competent women have no confidence in their body's capabilities. I find it hard to understand why a woman would give over her body to an obstetrician, who makes more money from a c-section, can schedule it at his/her convenience and feels indemnified from future litigation. The worst part is that so many women are complicit in allowing this to happen.

No wonder health care costs are staggering, when you compare the total cost for a normal versus a cesarean birth. Sorry you won't even reconsider decision.

Soupy said...

How sad that some women have one point of view...........

Little Dude's Mama said...

Amen, Soupy.

I did not breast-feed my 14mo. old daughter ... and I can echo the things you said about Keifer today regarding my little girl.

You're the Mama, you make the calls. All my support!

Tiffany said...

You don't know me, but I have been following your blog for some time and I am a friend of Liz. I just want you to know that I completely agree with you. You have to do what is best for your body and your baby as it relates to your life. Unfortunately, there are people out there who will judge you for your choices. If only we could learn to support each other as mothers instead of judge each other. As long as you and your family are happy with it, that is all that matters. I have been following your blog for over a year now and I think you are doing great! It is so obvious how much you love your daughter. It warms my heart. You have a beautiful, adorable, happy and intelligent little girl. Congratulations on being a great mom and your pregnancy!

MIP said...

Rude BellaBride, the only sad thing here is that you are too narrow minded to respect the choices that other women make for their own bodies. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but try to be considerate of other women's ability to make decisions for their family and body.

That said, Good for you Carrie for standing by your decision and being willing to share it with us. I too will be going in for a repeat c-section with number two and completely understand the stigma that comes with that decision. It's obvious that Keifer suffers no ill effects from her method of birth or being formula fed. You have obviously made good choices for both you and her.

Ann(ie) said...

ooooooh I like you!! First of all BIG CONGRATS! I found you via Perfectly Imperfect and I'm pregnant with a 2nd munchkin, too. I'm due in June. I am also scheduling a 2nd C-section and have ZERO qualms about it and am going to try to breastfeed this time, but we'll just see how it goes!!
I have a private blog, but email me and I'd love to add you as a reader!!annmiller71@comcast.net

Jonathan and Tara said...

I get so frustrated with women and mothers who think that their way is the only right way.

One of my good friends chose to not even try breastfeeding, she just didn't like the idea. Her daughter is super smart and they have one of the closest mother-daughter bonds I have seen.

Congrats to you for doing what is best for your family. Moms have hard decisions to make and there are much more pressing issues than how the doctor gets your baby out of your body.

And as far as Bella's "staggering health care cost" issues... well my doctor only charges $300 more for a CS than Vaginal. That's not too staggering, is it?

Tara @ www.twolinesonastick.com

thoughts and ramblings said...

I commend you, Soupie. it's YOUR body...YOUR decision, YOUR baby. it's none of anyone else's business.

I believe in natural childbirth....but apparently my body believes otherwise because I've had 2 c-sections after 2+ days of labor BOTH times....

AND....Gracie was exclusively breastfed for 14 months....but she's been the sickest kid all her 5 years of life. Morgan was breastfed too and has been VERY healthy....so I really don't think it's a "rule"....

Ignore the rude comments hon. That is just ridiculous that she thinks she can come to YOUR blog and reprimand YOU for YOUR choices!!!

PHOOEY! lol

love ya girl.

Jamie said...

Carrie, you should do what is right for you, for your family, for your baby. There is nothing wrong with a c-section or formula. Keifer is obviously a genius and she experienced both.

BellaBride needs to realize that her comment is not helpful and needs to be less judgemental and let everyone live their own life.

~Amber~ said...

I have a nearly 3 year old daughter, who was born via emergency c-section after 41 hours of labor because she refused to turn back over. It was a rough recovery. However, I am due with a son in just 3 weeks and I chose a c-section with him too! I don't want to go thru labor again, and I don't want to have to find someone to watch my 3 year old should we go into labor in the middle of the night.

Also, breastfeeding didn't work for us. My daughter wouldn't latch on and I remember how I beat myself up for "failing"....well, this time, we aren't even trying, and my husband fully supports me in this decision. His reply? "I don't want you ragging your nipples out babe"..

Soooooooo, you do what is best for you and your family...and know that there are some kids that have been breastfed and are always ill and tons of kids raised on formula who are healthy as horses.

I have no issues with those choosing to breastfeed, and I don't judge them whatsoever. I do have issues with so called "lactivists" who try to shove it on everyone else. My goodness, this isn't 1955 and we DO have other choices...and yes, sometimes they are out of convenience and sometimes there are other reasons, but the bottom line is :

OUR BODIES, OUR DECISIONS!!!!

Love following your blog and can't wait to see your baby!

Queen Bee said...

Way to go, Carrie! As a double c-section girl with two beautiful boys I say love your kids and do what you think is best!

Heather said...

Congratulations on being happy and comfortable with your choices. So many times, I feel bad for women who feel guilty over their choices. I love the idea of letting go of the guilt. The birth process and what we feed our babies is such a small piece of parenting. What's important is that they have healthy and happy parents who care for them and love them.

Jenni said...

While I hoped for a VBAC with Adam, his 10 pound body and my non-cooperating uterus and cervix had other ideas, so I had a repeat C with him. Once I heard his size, I was glad! lol Anyway, just want you to know that the recovery the second time is sooooooo much easier!! Just 12 hours later, I had almost no pain.

As for breastfeeding, you made an informed choice and you know the benefits of both ways. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty!

Piccinigirl said...

Well Soupy you know where I stand...right with you. I don't believe that a c-section or formula fed babies are an issue. My kiddos were born early, via C-section and had formula even in the NICU. They are the happiest, healthiest (except for that daycare cough they have) little boys. I never rethought any of it. I always figured that waiting so long to get pregnant, having the IVF, the hives, the vomiting, the bedrest, the cervix, the constant dr appts and we still got to 35 weeks, well that was enough for me to want to take a break and just be there with my kiddos. Plus I needed a c-section, Gio was breech and not moving, my water broke...decision made. As far as formula...well I decided when I found out it was twins, I had moments of "I should try" but I knew I was going back to work and I knew I wouldn't feel comfortable with it, plus I feel very close to my kiddos, when I give them a bottle we have that "quality time" together, that bonding.

It's your choice and some people should just stay out of other people's lives. And it is true that C-section is a very small amount more than a vaginal birth. I checked with my insurance company.

*Hugs*

Pegs said...

I totally support you and your decisions!! You have a beautiful and very happy little girl and the fact that I know you are a great mom with only your childrens best interest at heart!! It's just plain narrow mindness of some people (bellabride) to push their single point views on others. I know you are doing the right thing for your family!!

Michele (Moosh) said...

Well, you know I breastfed my kids--Maddie until she weaned herself at one and Alex until he weaned himself at almost 19 months--and I can't say it was all butterflies, lady bugs and chocolate. It was excruciating in the beginning, both mentally and physicall--with Maddie especially (bleeding sores, latch problems, blisters, tons of crying, etc) and BOTH of my kids lost staggering amounts of weight due to the struggle. I had to supplement with formula the entire year I breastfed Maddie and you know what a smartie pants she is!

Apparently BellaBride missed the points that you made about how you DID consider all sides of the issue and this is the decision YOU'VE made, along with your doctor! You are not being one-sided or closed off at all, Soupy girl, I know for a fact, first hand how much you've considered all angles!!!

I never would have donated my eggs to you if I didn't think Chris and you would be amazing parents and put your kids first always. And that's exactly what you do. KLC and baby Kyla couldn't have a more doting family--it is such an honor and priviledge for me to be a part of it!!!

Love you, hon.
(And I've never mooned anyone but I'm giving a "virtual mooning" to BellaBride! LOL)

LinkWithin

Related Posts with Thumbnails