Monday, March 31, 2008

Egg Donor Characteristics

Friday, I got the call from our clinic - a nurse wanted to set up my "mock cycle" with me, and also wanted to go through the list that will be sent to the donor coordinator (at our clinic); a list of the characteristics we would potentially want in an egg donor. It was interesting and a bit surreal to sit on the phone and talk, so nonchalantly, about the characteristics of what our "ideal" egg donor would possess. It was definitely not something most people probably even stop and think about doing, when talking about having kids.

I'm OK now with having an anonymous donor. The more time that goes by, the more I realize that the first experience with Mooshie could never be replicated, and I think not knowing who our donor is will save me a lot of stress and unwanted anxiety about how things are moving along, or working. Lord knows, the less stress the better for me. I tend to get as tightly wound as a clock, and I'm of the philosophy lately, that the less stress, the better, especially with our angel girl to take care of. But, if anything, I think having Keifer will help me be distracted enough NOT to get so tightly wound up in the process of this all. Already, the time is flying by; let's just hope this remains true for the rest of this journey.

I told the nurse our first and second "picks" as to what eye color, hair color, and hair texture we wanted. "Thick and luxurious", I told her, laughing, as I have the most baby fine hair on the planet. I really didn't think it mattered what type of hair, curly or straight, she have, as at this point, should it? We were able to pick height (range of 5 foot 3 inches to 5 foot 8 inches),and "body type", as in, what type of body. I also laughed a bit, telling her that pre-TTC and all the drugs, and pre-PG, I used to be a lean and slender girl. I made sure to say that we wanted a fair skinned girl, as I am so lily white, I burn in an instant without sunscreen. When asked if there were any additional traits that we might like to add, I said that dimples would be nice, as I have the "family" dimples, inherited from my Papa, and it would be nice to have something like that available, if it were possible.

As I said before, it is a bit surreal, to sit and write about our ideal donor. All we would really want is somebody healthy and smart, and caring, and compassionate. I would hope to think that whoever does this (donates eggs) would possess most of those qualities, you know?


kristine said...

As much pressure as there is to 'pick' the charachteristics of your potential donor, I think it is really neat. How cool is it that you can try to find people that have the same characterisitics/features as yourself, your husband or your family. I look forward to reading more about your journey..

Marketing Mama said...

Interesting! I think it's neat that you can "request" certain features - I saw a show about sperm donors on Oprah recently and the women were talking about why they were interested in particular donors - looks were a big part of it!

Michele (Moosh) said...

Oh honey, many prayers to you!!!

Love you

Piccinigirl said...

OMG, sweetie, what a journey you are going to be on again soon. I am sitting here just smiling and knowing that Keifer will be a big sister, hang in there and know that you are never far from my thoughts.


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